Whether you\u2019ve been offered a lucrative position in another city, or believe a certain place to be the haven of your dreams, or just can\u2019t stand the extreme weather conditions in your current area anymore, you may have a good reason to relocate and look for happiness someplace else. Your partner (or spouse), however, may not feel the same way about such a big step in your common life. Fear of the unknown, unwillingness to part with family and friends, and anxiety over change are all powerful factors that effectively work against the idea of moving house.<\/p>\n
Such a reluctance to step out of one\u2019s comfort zone and brave the risks, however, may result in many missed opportunities and bitter regrets. So, what is to be done when one spouse wants to move but the other doesn\u2019t<\/em>?<\/p>\n In order to convince your reluctant spouse of the benefits an eventual relocation will bring to your life, first you need to make sure that it will be really worth the effort and the stress involved. Consider the following crucial factors:<\/p>\n 1) Financial advantages<\/strong> \u2013 find out if your life will actually improve after the relocation:<\/p>\n 2) Available opportunities<\/strong> \u2013 find out what opportunities your new new city has to offer:<\/p>\n 3) Moving issues<\/strong> \u2013 find out how hard the actual relocation process will be:<\/p>\n 4) Sentimental factors <\/strong>\u2013 find out if you and your family will be able to accept the change in a positive way and to enjoy your new life:<\/p>\n All in all, if it seems that you will gain more than you will lose by moving house, you can bravely proceed with your plans. However, you need to find a way to do so without damaging your marriage.<\/p>\n Once you come to the conclusion that a house move is your best course of action under the present circumstances, you need to talk with your spouse about your feelings, needs, and expectations of the change. When discussing the proposed relocation, you will both get a fair idea about the issues involved and the possible solutions.<\/p>\n Have in mind that it is usually not the change that people hate so much, but the inevitable losses it involves. If you can figure out how to minimize potential losses, you\u2019ll have a better chance to convince your reluctant spouse to go along with the move.<\/p>\n If your spouse doesn\u2019t want to move despite the probable advantages, consider a compromise – suggest a temporary move. Rent out your current home and move to your chosen city for a certain period of time. Give it about a two-year tryout, for example, and reassess the situation. If your partner still doesn\u2019t feel comfortable in the new surroundings, hates the area, and regrets the relocation, consider moving back – even if it is not financially justifiable, returning to your \u201csweet home\u201d may still be the right thing to do.<\/p>\n It is advisable to thoroughly research the place you intend to move to well in advance \u2013 use the Internet to find out any relevant information about the city, check with friends and acquaintances that live in the area, or follow local blogs, forums, and township sites to get an accurate idea of the positive and negative aspects of the place.<\/p>\n However, the best thing you can do under the circumstances is physically explore the city together with your spouse \u2013 look at houses for sale, check out local schools, visit a farmer\u2019s market, have dinner in a nice family restaurant, etc. This will help you make better decisions about your new life and will put your partner\u2019s fears at ease.<\/p>\n Without a doubt, the great hassle involved in the relocation process is one of the main reasons why your spouse is reluctant to move. If you plan every stage of the moving endeavor well enough to ensure a smooth and stress-free relocation, your significant other will certainly accept the change in a much more positive way. So, start the moving preparations as early as possible and make sure you:<\/p>\n Moving house is a life-changing event which inevitably entails a great emotional upheaval in a relationship. Allow yourself and your partner enough time to deal with the change and cope with the challenges you are faced with. What matters is to respect the other person\u2019s opinions and feelings, to share your expectations and fears, and to make every important decision together \u2013 this way you will be able to enjoy each and every moment of your life, wherever you may live at that moment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Whether you\u2019ve been offered a lucrative position in another city, or believe a certain place to be the haven of your dreams, or just can\u2019t stand the extreme weather conditions in your current area anymore, you may have a good reason to relocate and look for happiness someplace else. Your partner (or spouse), however, may<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1468,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[8,10],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\t\n\t\n\n\nWeigh the pros and the cons of an eventual relocation<\/h2>\n
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Discuss the issue at length<\/h2>\n
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